Why do we envy fun? It seems natural that as some people become older, they become more and more intolerant of those that they perceive to be immature. The overall prevailing perception is that as you get older, life gets more and more miserable. We are told that we work until our deaths. There are limits placed on us all of the time. We are told things from every example. But very rarely is individuality rewarded. We are expected to become slaves: you are to do as I say. But what if you want to achieve something different?
Too bad: every ounce of hope within you is to be squelched by misery. Once again, we are taught that in the workplace, there is absolutely no hope for fun. We are expected to accept the first thing offered to us. The greatest tragedy to befall a society is not a mass shooting. It is not obesity. It is teaching that goals and dreams are only unjustly rewarded to others, and that we are to accept unhappiness. I cannot tell you how time and time again, I have envied professional athletes, professional authors, business owners. “They aren’t working: they are just having fun. There’s no way they deserve to be making so much more than others that are working so much harder: especially to play a game!” I have heard and thought this throughout most of my childhood. But there are many factors that I have neglected, and many more that I probably am still.
I do not doubt financial struggles. I know them all too well. I also understand that many individuals work extremely hard work for what they deem to be unrealistic pay. But this is all the more reason to have extremely high goals.
The prevailing logic is that because a particular job is hard with what feels like little pay, other people should not be able to pursue a dream career with a wage that they are happy with. But as anyone can tell you, this immediately falls apart with the logic. The logic becomes “Because I do not have a dream job and because I wish I had more money, no one should be allowed to love what they do and be financially happy.” But by that logic, does the man in the wheelchair have the right to cut off the legs of others? The blind man the right to take away the sight from others? The deaf man the right to take away the hearing of others? The same mantra that laborers teach their children, that “life isn’t fair,” doesn’t seem to be recalled when they look in the mirror and don’t like what they see. The same lessons that they teach their kids, to follow their dreams and become successful, do not seem to apply to the kids of others. Nor does the lesson “treat others as you want to be treated” ring a bell. No, it’s all justified because they’re “adults” now, and they can’t be told what to do.
Don’t get me wrong: poverty is a serious problem. But each man’s finances are the responsibility of the individual needs of the individual. I am responsible for my finances, you are responsible for yours: everyone is responsible for his own. Therefore, no one is owed anything.
I have yet to understand why these laborers that complain about certain industries making too much money do not work to join in on these industries on their own. Instead of thinking “these people make too much money,” what they should be thinking is “How can I make money like that?” Instead of saying that people should not be paid that much to play a game, they should play the game on their own.
The average adult laborer is a dream-killer: “They shouldn’t make that much money to play a game.” It’s all envy-based. People will always want the greatest amount of reward for the least amount of effort. This isn’t morally wrong: it’s simply human nature. So when these laborers complain about their pay and their labor, they aren’t doing anything wrong. They are doing what is expected of them. I would do the same thing. But if you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten.
My biggest goal in life is to become a professional writer. My heart tells me that I am far away from this goal, and for once, my heart and my peers are in agreement. But I know that if I believe that I cannot become a professional writer someday that my chances of becoming one decrease dramatically. I know that I can become a professional writer someday. I am confident in my abilities (depending on the day you ask me), but I am lucky enough to be blessed with a certain talent. Certainly, I received some of this perceived talent genetically as well as from some really good teachers in my life. I have certainly been blessed in this area. But because of this, I would consider it a travesty and dishonest if I did not try to make money at this.
I think that one of the many reasons that people do not achieve their dreams and become wealthy is because they believe that it is wrong to do so. If it is unfair for other people to find their dream job and become wealthy, then certainly it is wrong in the eyes of the morally self-righteous to do the same things for themselves, but that is probably a topic for another article.
There are many causes of poverty in the world. I would say that envy is the greatest cause of poverty, followed by laziness. If these dream-killers would leave the dreamers alone and dream for themselves, the world would be a much better place. By no means am I saying that we can make the world perfect, as the moralists say. But what I am saying is that logic dictates that if dreamers become wealthy, and you try to destroy the dreams of others and think that dreaming for yourself is child’s play, then you will never be wealthy. That isn’t anyone else’s fault but your own.
In no way am I saying that achieving wealth is easy. Changing the world on a large scale is not easy (i.e., becoming wealthy). But it is of my opinion that the first step to becoming wealthy is to dream. I am not wealthy yet: in fact, I am far from it. But my financial situation is my own responsibility. No one is in control of my dreams except myself. I decide what I am going to do to succeed.
As I have stated, the sure way to never obtain wealth is to believe that you cannot obtain it, so the naysayer that never believes he can become wealthy will say “You don’t get to decide what makes you wealthy: other people do.” This is an envious comment to be ignored. Any idiot could tell you that you don’t become wealthy unless other people pay you, and other people aren’t going to pay you unless they believe that you have given something to them. This is just common sense. This does not need to be pointed out. But the envious will take my comment of “I decide what I am going to do to succeed” and use what I have just told you to mean that I cannot succeed on my own way, but in the way of the market. This sounds true on the surface, but what he means is that he believes that I cannot succeed on my own way, but on his way. Lucky for me that I have my own way.
His way, once again, represents the logic that I have presented earlier that if his way truly worked, he would be using it himself, so this is a signal for me to ignore him and find my own way of doing things. There are many articles that I could probably write about authority, but as for now, I will only say that I am in charge of my financial life and he is in charge of his. If I am not as financially successful as I want to be, then that is not his worry and if he is not as financially successful as he wants to be, then that is not my worry.
Another problem with the moralists is that the same logic that is going to make them think that my previous sentence is immoral is the same logic that makes them think that having a dream job and being wealthy is immoral while being poor and miserable is somehow honorable. Once again, by their logic, we should all poke out our eyes, rupture our eardrums and cut off our limbs so that we are all disadvantaged and “honorable.”
Quite frankly, the reason that many people aren’t rich is because they don’t know how to be while the people that are rich know how to be rich. You would think that this is logic, and it is. But this logic expands to include that if you destroy what has allowed other people to achieve their dream jobs and obtain wealth that you have destroyed the mechanisms that would have allowed you to obtain the same things. So you are destroying your own abilities to obtain your dream job and become wealthy by taking those things away from someone else, because the only way to take that away from someone else is to destroy the mechanism that gave it to them, and it is that same mechanism which provided you with the only opportunity to obtain what they had obtained which you rashly destroyed with your envy and ignorance.
Once again, it is human nature to want to obtain as much as possible while putting forth as little effort as possible. It is not immoral: it is human nature. But if you are mad that someone else is able to quench his thirst more so than you are, then by destroying his water and the way he obtained it, everyone is going to be thirsty, including yourself, and everyone will die of thirst.
The first step to obtaining a dream job and becoming wealthy is to want both. On some superficial level, and in fact on some very real, human level, we all want these things. I would argue that some of us want these things more so than others. And I would say that the ones that want it the most work the hardest to make it happen while the ones that don’t want it as badly expect that they deserve it. I think that this is the fundamental difference between the wealthy and the unwealthy: the dreamer and the miserable. The wealthy and the dreamer go out there and earn their dream jobs and wealth while the poor miserable feel entitled. I think this is the fundamental difference between the ones that achieve their dream jobs and the ones that are miserable: between the rich and the poor. Because one is earned, it is just. But because the other is entitled, it has no merit.
Entitlement is a subject for another article, but the first step to obtain a dream job and to become wealthy is to dream of both. The next step, which is harder, is to ignore everyone that you believe is going to prevent you from obtaining your dreams. Maybe you are wrong and they will help you, but your financial decisions are your own to make, whether you listen to others or not. And finally, I have no more advice because I have not yet obtained the levels that I want to obtain, but I know that these first two steps will have to be utilized if I am to obtain my dream job and become wealthy. I will figure out the next steps as I go along.
August 9, 2013.