From page 200 and 201 of “The Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook” (Hopefully, this helps you out)

(Originally published 4/9/13):

Mistaken Traditional Assumption: It is selfish to put your needs before others’ needs.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to put yourself first sometimes.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: It is shameful to make mistakes. You should have appropriate response for every occasion.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to make mistakes.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: If you can’t convince others that your feelings are reasonable, then the feelings must be wrong, or maybe you are going crazy.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to be the final judge of your feelings and accept them as legitimate.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should respect the views of others, especially if they are in a position of authority. Keep your differences of opinion to yourself. Listen and learn.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to have your own opinions and convictions.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should always try to be logical and consistent.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to change your mind or decide on a different course of action.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should be flexible and adjust. Others have good reasons for their actions and it’s not polite to question them.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to protest unfair treatment or criticism.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should never interrupt people. Asking questions reveals your stupidity to others.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to interrupt in order to ask for clarification.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: Things could get even worse, don’t rock the boat.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to negotiate for change.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You shouldn’t take up others’ valuable time with your problems.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to ask for help or emotional support.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: People don’t want to hear that you feel bad, so keep it to yourself.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to feel and express pain.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: When someone takes the time to give you advice, you should take it very seriously.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to ignore the advice of others.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: Knowing that you did something well is its own reward. People don’t like show-offs. Successful people are secretly disliked and envied. Be modest when complimented.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to receive formal recognition for your work and achievements.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should always try to accommodate others. If you don’t, they won’t be there when you need them.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to say “no.”

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: Don’t be anti-social. People are going to think you don’t like them if you say you’d rather be alone instead of with them.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to be alone, even if others would prefer your company.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should always have a good reason for what you feel and do.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right not to have to justify yourself to others.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: When someone is in trouble, you should help them.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right not to take responsibility for someone else’s problem. (I love this one 🙂

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should be sensitive to the needs and wishes of others, even when they are unable to tell you what they want.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right not to have to anticipate others’ needs and wishes.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: It’s always a good policy to stay on people’s good side.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right not to always worry about the goodwill of others.

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Mistaken Traditional Assumption: It’s not nice to put people off. If questioned, give an answer.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to choose not to respond to a situation.

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