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From page 200 and 201 of “The Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook” (Hopefully, this helps you out)

(Originally published 4/9/13):

Mistaken Traditional Assumption: It is selfish to put your needs before others’ needs.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to put yourself first sometimes.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: It is shameful to make mistakes. You should have appropriate response for every occasion.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to make mistakes.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: If you can’t convince others that your feelings are reasonable, then the feelings must be wrong, or maybe you are going crazy.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to be the final judge of your feelings and accept them as legitimate.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should respect the views of others, especially if they are in a position of authority. Keep your differences of opinion to yourself. Listen and learn.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to have your own opinions and convictions.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should always try to be logical and consistent.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to change your mind or decide on a different course of action.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should be flexible and adjust. Others have good reasons for their actions and it’s not polite to question them.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to protest unfair treatment or criticism.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should never interrupt people. Asking questions reveals your stupidity to others.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to interrupt in order to ask for clarification.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: Things could get even worse, don’t rock the boat.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to negotiate for change.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You shouldn’t take up others’ valuable time with your problems.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to ask for help or emotional support.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: People don’t want to hear that you feel bad, so keep it to yourself.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to feel and express pain.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: When someone takes the time to give you advice, you should take it very seriously.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to ignore the advice of others.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: Knowing that you did something well is its own reward. People don’t like show-offs. Successful people are secretly disliked and envied. Be modest when complimented.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to receive formal recognition for your work and achievements.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should always try to accommodate others. If you don’t, they won’t be there when you need them.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to say “no.”


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: Don’t be anti-social. People are going to think you don’t like them if you say you’d rather be alone instead of with them.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to be alone, even if others would prefer your company.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should always have a good reason for what you feel and do.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right not to have to justify yourself to others.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: When someone is in trouble, you should help them.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right not to take responsibility for someone else’s problem. (I love this one 🙂


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: You should be sensitive to the needs and wishes of others, even when they are unable to tell you what they want.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right not to have to anticipate others’ needs and wishes.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: It’s always a good policy to stay on people’s good side.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right not to always worry about the goodwill of others.


Mistaken Traditional Assumption: It’s not nice to put people off. If questioned, give an answer.

Your Legitimate Right: You have a right to choose not to respond to a situation.

A Criticism on David’s Platt’s “Idolatry and Sports.”

The World According to Devin Stevens

The following link, I trust, will direct you to a Youtube video entitled “David Platt- Idolatry and Sports.”

If not, simply type in “David Platt- Idolatry and Sports” in a Youtube search bar and you’ll probably see a video where the popular evangelist criticizes the Christian’s “idolatrous” preoccupation with sports.

The reason I’m sharing this link with you all today is that I’d like to offer a criticism on it and share some insight concerning its teaching. On seeing this all too common scenario of legalistic preaching in the church culture, here are my personal thoughts.

I know that America’s (or at least the media’s) obsession with the controversey surrounding Tom Brady being suspended over knowing about deflated balls seems to give ample evidence of our nation’s fanatical bent towards sports. We don’t simply cheer and yell for our favorite teams. We get sucked in to their private lives as…

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A prayer.

Despicable are those who manipulate destroy the emotions of others to that of sheer terror by using Satan’s methods…

And may God have mercy on the souls of those who do such thinking they are doing the Lord’s work…



Logic, Money, and Morality

Logic dictates that with an anti-money mentality, justified by the self, will come less money than otherwise would occur if one accepted the fact that one wanted more money, and took the steps necessary to attempt to get it, instead of condemning it on some kind of self-defined “moral” ground…






Voluntarism and Capitalism.

An Analysis of My OWN Anti-Business Mentality.





Where you can financially support me if you so desire (please share all of these links)no, this is not just some kind of marketing ploy.

I think it’s valuable for other people to hear it, even if they don’t come to a conclusion which I think would be most helpful for them…

Quandary involving what I want to write (non-fiction-wise, and MAYBE even FICTION wise…)

I feel like everything that I want to write has already been written by someone else in history.

My only hopes of “standing out” is to be discovered by an individual (which becomes a “set” of individuals) before the previous author is discovered by said individuals.

But if said individual(s) have not been discovered by present-day readers, centuries after their writing, how can I expect my own writing to fare any better?

Of course, present-day readers couldn’t have read said works centuries ago, when they were written.

But how will I know whether or not I will be “discovered” while I’m alive, or centuries after my death, or even, in fact, at all? (I can’t).

And what about how said authors’ works were received during their day (while they were alive?) That’s important to me. How my work is perceived while I’m alive is important to me because of financial reasons, (AND because of some GENERAL spiritual connection with humanity, whereby I wish to do something good, important, and valuable, defined (hopefully) by objective terms, but, ultimately, being manifested in the consciousnesses of others; but not, however, being so specific as to, in practice, having each individual that I have positively affected (as determined by them) specify to me, in its entirety, how exactly I have affected him or her)) but also because I want to feel like I’ve left my mark on the world, for generations after I have left it; (and of course, the latter will last longer than the former, even if for an amount of time that is nearly impossible to quantify). Of course, how their works were perceived does not affect how my works are received, except through that historical and futuristic process of social organization whereby individuals discuss present works, and pass these pieces of information on from generation to generation, until finally, a “history” is developed, whereby we can say that “such-and-such is similar to someone else”, or was “influenced by someone else”, etc.

And what of the fact that much of what I want to say has already been written?

It makes me wonder what the point of writing is if ideas keep being rehashed.

How can I be expected to become successful if I’m just rewriting old ideas?

I suppose that I will have to rely on the ignorance of previous works by readers, although that juxtaposition is bittersweet:

If my success depends upon the ignorance of other historical authors by readers, I have no reason to believe that my work will fare any better, as there are countless historical authors who are better writers than I, and it makes me wonder if it’s really worth the potential money that I could receive

Of course, this isn’t to say that there isn’t a psychic pleasure derived from writing regardless of the amount of financial compensation received for it. Although I have stated that my number one priority with my work is to enjoy it for myself, there are still those (and will always be those) that believe that I’m just “writing for the money“, and all of the horrible religious/moral/spiritual ideas (mostly horrible ones, at that) regarding money rear their ugly heads, and remind me of a time of ignorance, and the worst possible fear that you could feel, in my youth.

However, although my mind contemplates the nature of the diversity among all human beings, and the nature of what makes each individual what they are, and hopes to conclude, however juvenile, some sort of conclusion that make sense (and, which ultimately, brings me happiness), I can’t help but, for the time being, conclude that, regardless of what is expressed to me by others regarding my work, I must write what makes me happy and what I enjoy, and if it means that I become the most socially-reclusive human being that will ever walk the face of this Earth, then so be it…

These are the types of gargantuan questions that constantly occupy my mind, and are the reasons that such common trivialities of social discourse are the source of such anger within me, especially when my nature is attempted at being suppressed by such ignorance (justified or not) within other individuals


A Philosopher’s Mind.


My work.

I Really Don’t CARE If Other People Don’t Like My Work.

My nature.




Voluntarism and Capitalism.


Excerpts from my fiction.

My poetry.

Where you can financially support me if you so desire (please share all of these links).


The Fearful Sacrament

A very refreshing piece indeed.

The World According to Devin Stevens

The sacrament of communion is one of two sacred practices in Protestant Christian churches. Baptism is the other. In regards to communion, believers are exhorted by Christ to drink wine (or, these days, juice) and eat bread in remembrance of His sacrifice on the Cross. In contrast to the Roman Catholic Church, Protestants do not believe that the physical elements actually are the literal body and blood of Christ, but rather just symbolic elements of Christ’s work.

The Roman Catholic church’s insistence on the bread and juice being literal actually brings me to the point of this blog faster than I had anticipated. Let’s imagine if you’re Roman Catholic and you partake of communion one Sunday. The administrator of the communion solemnly warns you that you are literally taking in the real body and blood of the Lord. Wow! How awesome! What could be a more intimate experience with God…

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Insanity in the name of religion.

The atheists are SO right about many things about religion.

Take something insane, and then say that it was done for “religious” purposes, and people will accept it.

All because people are afraid of what is going to happen to them after they die.

It’s the greatest tragedy in the history of mankind, except perhaps the initial Fall of Man.